The energy of the mind is the essence of life. – Aristotle

They’re Watching!

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Ever get bad news?  I’m not talking about devastating news like a death, but just news regarding something you were hopeful for.  It’s terrible.  Your hear, “you didn’t get the job”.  Your world seems to crumble and you begin to doubt yourself.  Maybe you’re just not good enough.  You keep upbeat and say “well, it’s just not meant to be”.  You brush it off.  But on the inside you wonder what is wrong with me, and what can you possibly do to fix it so that you’re acceptable to society again.  What do you need to fix so that someone will want you?

It’s upsetting.  You worked hard, and no one noticed.  You feel like just giving up.  Why try anyway, right?  If you never get anywhere, and you’re just spinning your wheels, you should just not care.  That’s the problem with many people.  We get so discouraged, and feel that nothing will ever be good enough, like we’re just another blade of grass blowing in the wind.

Every one in this world wants to be wanted.  Sure, you may be a little picky of who would want you, but there’s not a person out there that can say “I don’t care what people think” and truly mean it.  It hurts to not be wanted, job wise and relationship wise.  It’s ten times worse, when we think we are awesome and are so positive about an opportunity, just to be shut down.

The problem is, many people quit.  Many people get so discouraged, that they don’t realize they’re only hurting themselves.  I was told by someone long ago that you needed to approach life as if you were always on a job interview.  You are constantly being interviewed for your next job, relationship, friendship, or even business opportunity.  In fact, whether you believe it or not, you are a salesman.  You are selling yourself.

Someone is constantly observing what you say and do.  Yes, your kids are watching you, but so are other people.  When you do something positive in someone’s eyes, or negative, you are constantly being judged, whether or not you notice or you want to be.  You are a salesman for yourself, for your family, and for your employer.  Being a car salesman, and being rude to a business client, does not make them want to come and buy a car from you.  In fact, they’ll go somewhere else, because I guarantee you they think very little of you and your business.

Are you saying things that can be perceived as negative in the eyes of a person that might consider you available for a relationship?  Guess what.  That person just ruled you out as a potential person to date.  That’s all because you gave yourself bad advertising.  I work in advertising so I know a bad ad when I see it.

I say this to prove a point.  Yes, the NSA is watching you, and so is everyone else.  You are constantly being interviewed for your next job.  Remember that.  If you’re good at what you do and always aim to impress, people notice.  They will not tell you they notice, but they do.  And yes, they talk about you too.  Do your job to the best of your ability every minute of every day, because the one person you think doesn’t matter, won’t notice, and will not care… does.  And if an opportunity arises, if you’ve advertised yourself well, you will be the first one they call.

Aim to be that person every time.  Not a people pleaser, because your cup of tea isn’t everyone’s flavor; but aim to be the person everyone thinks of for a job opening.  Aim to be the person that anyone would want to set up with their best friend.  Aim to be the best friend a person could ask for even if you don’t know that person.  There’s an opportunity at every step.  When one window closes, a door opens. Take every opportunity you are given, because you never know where the next window leads.

Remember that door that slammed in your face?  Chin up, and keep on trucking.  The next window just opened because someone else was watching.


Author: Jess

Texan by birth, Okie by current address. Journalist who caught the travel bug. I have a healthy dachshund obsession and spend endless hours reading about world history on Wikipedia.

One thought on “They’re Watching!

  1. Completely agree. I believe in a saying now that goes: “Life is 10% of what happens to you, and 90% of how you react to it.” You have to stay positive at all times, especially when negative things come your way. It is difficult, but I have tried to see a lesson to be learned from every negative experience. I’ve made a ton of mistakes in my life in many areas, but looking back, I regret not one. Those experiences made me who I am today, good & bad. If it weren’t for the experiences I would not be who I am. You learn from mistakes and enjoy the successes. Great post, Jess!


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